Bereavement - A Closing Note

Each person on earth is as unique and individual as their fingerprint. How you grieve is affected by your personality, your previous life experiences, and your relationship with ' the deceased. Some people are talkers, while others prefer expressing feelings through journaling, physical activities, or music and art. Find the way that works best for you and actively express those emotions.

As you journey through grief, remember that feelings are neither right or wrong, they just are. It is very common for bereaved persons to be angry at medical personnel, them- selves, the person who died, and even God. Allow yourself to feel what you feel, and then forgive and continue on in your journey. Remember that it is not our feelings that hurt us or others, but how we act on those feelings that can be damaging or healing.

You have lost not only a person whom you loved, but you have also lost other things as well... perhaps your security, your companion, your advisor, your future. Be patient with yourself and take one day at a time. Wounds take time and care to heal.

You don't have to walk alone. Remember that you have many friends who care and want to help. Allow them to give of themselves at this time. You can reach out to others as you become stronger. Right now, let them help. Also remember the Hospice Family Services Staff is here for you, and we care a great deal about you.